tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381997631221034387.post522984654870559409..comments2019-10-28T13:11:48.849-07:00Comments on My Latte Brings All the Boys to the Yard: The Things They Don't Tell You About Being a Single ParentMy Latte Brings All the Boys to the Yardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17098755517519394683noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381997631221034387.post-29474989753791535882013-03-27T05:53:22.453-07:002013-03-27T05:53:22.453-07:00Totally true, Laticia. Thanks for reading and sha...Totally true, Laticia. Thanks for reading and sharing your experience.My Latte Brings All the Boys to the Yardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17098755517519394683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381997631221034387.post-38565437811623402402013-03-04T08:19:06.417-08:002013-03-04T08:19:06.417-08:00I split from the ex-hubs five years ago coming up ...I split from the ex-hubs five years ago coming up in June, the divorce took two years and no one understood what it was like in the middle of the night second guessing myself "Should I try to make it work?" and "What will I do now?" to the heady high of doing my first car repair without him in ten years "I don't need a man!" to the despair of the time my then 7yr old son looked at me and said "I hate you! Why can't you let my dad come home?!" and burst tears.<br /><br />Your married girlfriends don't get it because it's never been that way, the friends that split up before their kids were born: don't get it because it's always been that way and their kids don't know what it is to have dad and mom together. Thank you for being the voice of someone who "Gets it"Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04935997132265610495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381997631221034387.post-60749848454329153092013-02-27T06:31:08.048-08:002013-02-27T06:31:08.048-08:00I've got a man in my life now and, while we do...I've got a man in my life now and, while we don't live together and probably won't for some time, it is a balancing act incorporating a decent relationship into the stress that is my life. I find myself trying to compartmentalize everything (still) which causes even more stress for me. I really don't know how to NOT do that. And I don't know how to give up the control I've had for the last few years and let someone else help me. I've been independent for what seems like a long time.<br /><br />The ex has been very passive aggressive lately. I would love it if he would just accept the changes happening. My new relationship. Kids growing up. Etc... But I can't make him do it.<br /><br />As for the other moms wanting to "relate" without actually being in our shoes? They don't get it and never will. Some of them really do mean well - but they simply have no clue. Lots of them also have a great support system of mom/dad/grandparents close by. I have never had that. When I say I have been doing it alone - I really have been doing it alone. I wasn't able to call my daddy when my furnace quit. I had to read the instructions on the damn door and call a handyman. Grown up stuff.<br /><br />Thanks for reading!<br /><br /><br />My Latte Brings All the Boys to the Yardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17098755517519394683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381997631221034387.post-63515825020687076292013-02-26T19:51:31.099-08:002013-02-26T19:51:31.099-08:00Amen! I have been there, done that...and dealing w...Amen! I have been there, done that...and dealing with the ex doesn't get any easier after you find Mr. Forever...he still sucks, maybe even more! Oh and funny how those that have never been single parents think they know it all...or think they have an understanding of being a single parent when their spouse is away for a week...really? I so want to tell them to rewind, bitch, last I checked you still have a two income household AND you aren't having to clean up after him. Best of both worlds right there!<br /><br />Great post!The Knight Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07031072927496491228noreply@blogger.com